I was recently talking to a friend of mine about forgiveness, and what is forgiveness and how do you forgive someone. And people sort of continue to turn around and say, “Oh, I need to forgive them,” or “I need to move on; get over.” But how do you do it?
Things are never as bad as they seem and things are never as good as they seem. And it reminds me of a particular couple that I had, that they were living in a rented house. And they were renovating the house to stay on the street, and they wanted to keep the house. So 2 years down the road, they’re panicking, “Oh, we haven’t got the money! We’re going to lose the whole lot,” and it all goes on and on and on. And it’s doom and gloom.n
One of the things I have realized over the time, when we’re negotiating with creditors and in actual fact when we are negotiating or dealing with things in life, is that there are no winners in an argument, whether it be our partners, whether it be our children, our parents. As soon as you get into an argument what we’re trying to do is to try and prove that the other person is wrong and that we are right. Now, from our point of view we’ll be right but if we accept the other person’s point of view from theirs is right, then we get a lot further.
Sometime ago, I was dealing with a fellow in the motor industry, and he had an agreement with quite a large motor repairer, to do their vehicles. He was going through a tough time, most probably wasn’t as strong mentally as he could be at that time. He’d had been 12 or 18 months of being harassed and worrying and feeling like he was going to lose everything.
When you’re depressed or when you’re focused on something and it seems to me that when I sit with people, that are going through this financial hassle in business or whatever, all they start to do is focus on themselves.
The subject explained in the news at the moment is Barnaby Joyce and his dual citizenship. Now I know as an Australian citizen, that I would love to have the best people running our country – the people that make the decisions based on what is good for our country and the citizens of our country.
Getting towards the end of the season in footy, for those that know me now, know that I follow Carlton Football Club. One of the things that I think is so important is that the path Carlton has taken over the last couple of years.
One negative comment needs seven positive comments just to balance it out, in your own mind and how you feel about yourself. This is something that i learnt years ago. And what I find happens is, quite often, when people find themselves in debt or not quite able to make ends meet, they start talking about failure, of not earning enough money, those sorts of negative comments.
So the hot dog story. I would have heard this 30-40 years ago. And It’s something I try to remember. It’s a humorous story but it’s got a very good message to it. And it relates back to after the war and of course there are a number of settlers that came to America of all different ethnic backgrounds and came and settled in America. And one of those couples that came to America and virtually had nothing. They settled near a major road. And there was this old store that had been closed down and all they could afford was to rent the couple of rooms that were above it. And so they rented these rooms and they were thinking what are we going to do for a living and the wife went out and did some did some housework and the husband did a bit of labouring and then they thought about it for a little while and the husband was renowned for making beautiful hot dogs, lovely hot dogs, you know with the mustard and those hot dogs that have got the hole in the middle and you heat the roll up and you put the hot dog down the middle of it with the sauce, fresh bread. They were absolutely magnificent hot dogs. So they started doing that and they thought well put a little stand at the front and sell these hot dogs to the cars going past. And they put a little stand at the front and then they started making Cordial to go with the hot dogs and then they started selling soft drinks and the business got bigger and bigger and bigger and ultimately they went to the landlord and said, “Could we rent the downstairs?” And they actually opened a hot dog shop, here on the high side of the road.
One of the things that is topical at the moment is why use a pre-insolvency person.Yeah of course, I’ve got a vested interest because I guess I am a pre-insolvency person. One of the advantage of using a pre-insolvency person is that they work for you. Now, again there are different types of pre-insolvency person.